Will I get along with a Gemini?
My ex was an Aries so I don’t want another one of those!
Because Sun sign astrology is prevalent culturally, many people imagine that compatibility relates to Sun signs.
The truth is the whole chart—all the planets in their different signs, located in different areas (called houses) of the horoscope—give us a nuanced picture of relationship inner wiring and needs. Astrology can be a remarkable ally in figuring out what we really want, what traits are core to our nature and are best accepted, and what patterns could be changed.
Perhaps you love to connect, looking for a special relationship, or feeling hopeless about ever finding the depth of relationships you crave. Through the chart we can see that perhaps you are meant to reach out and develop self through relationship, or that this is a dysfunctional habit pattern—a giving up of yourself. Focusing on self sufficiency will create more balance.
Maybe people keep telling you, “You ought to get out there and be less reclusive!” The chart will indicate if in fact being a hermit is your true nature and you need a good deal of solitude to reset, or if this is a phase.
Another common theme is to be in a relationship, wondering if you made a mistake, or if it’s worth it to make a break. Here again, the chart will explain the nature of your inner conflict, with practical actions to align with the stars. It often helps to evolve yourself within the relationship first to be certain of your choices. The chart suggests themes and timing.
With an evolutionary astrology approach, we discover and employ new choices and healing tools to ultimately create conscious, healthy relationships, rather than accept dysfunctional patterns as our fate.
Although we might look to our childhood to explain our personality and relationship choices, the truth is we were born with clear tendencies shown in the chart from the first breath, before we opened our eyes to see our parents.
The Natal Chart is the Roadmap
No matter what type of relationship you are in, we begin with your natal chart relationship signatures. We see what your gifts and preferences are, and where you need to do your own personal work. The movement of planets through the sky indicates key turning points and the questions you will be asking yourself. Some cycles suggest hard work and commitment. Others indicate a need for surrender or freedom.
Astro Synastry is the comparison of two or more charts, where we can assess the energetic interaction between you and others. Do you fit each other’s pictures? Or do you press each other’s buttons?
Finally through the Composite or Davison Chart we discover the deeper meaning of the relationship itself. With this chart we see the relationship unfold and develop over time.
All of these charts show us the path of fate, while personal consciousness and choice express free will. I have seen great astrological connections in relationships that ended in divorce or disconnect, and long standing relationships built on complicated, challenging planetary configurations.
Whatever your relationship questions or challenges, it’s always a good idea to understand your chart—and maybe the charts of others—in this deep and curious way. Through relationship astrology, we can learn to accept differences and be true to ourselves.
Kay Taylor will be sharing an evolutionary approach to Relationship Astrology at the OPA Retreat in Zion National Park, Utah.